HOLA! This is two small posts in one. They kind of flowed together so I kept it as is. I originally posted this on 7 October 2010, but did some revisions/corrections. So, if you saw this before, this is why it looks different.
To hear some people tell it, all Christian women should dress in billowy clothes that hide their figures, read bible verses all day and hope that some man will deign to look and see their inner beauty. Don't exhibit any sexiness at all. That is how they did it in the Bible, right?
I call garbage!
I graduated from a Christian academy. I remember that the ugliest girls in my school were still ugly and dateless, the hottest girls still got dates and the average ones were doing the best they could. Going into their adult lives, many remained single, if they didn't find a man by the time they left high school or college. One trait they had in common was that they all tried to land their man by any means possible, within reason (Let's study the Bible together. By the way, I made some carrot cake. You say that's your favorite? Wow! I didn't know . . . *in head high five*). Left to muddle through of their own devices, they do what they can. What this has resulted in is a good deal of single ladies (and men) in the church. All you have to do is look around at many of the churches today and see how many single people there are or see how many people have just given up on finding a man/woman in church.
Why is this? It is because many "true" Christian churches don't teach their women to be sexual or how to righteously attract a mate. Now, there is a difference between being sexual and being slutty. Classy/Trashy. You get it. We as humans are sexual beings. If it wasn't meant to be this way, well, we would be extinct. There are always ways to be sexual without over exposure. But it is o.k. to put a little tease on the table. And if you don't believe the need for this kind of teaching, all you have to do is look at the "worldly" competition.
Speaking of the world, I am always amazed by my friends who "find" religion. Or, better yet, those who "rediscover" religion after having taken in all the world had to offer and rejecting it. Especially those that have attracted your mate/spouse or reached a certain point in life, good or bad. After you see the "world" isn't what you thought it was, you ran back to your Faith. That's cool, I guess. However, to me, this usually happens when you have used the tools you learned out "in the world" to get what you wanted. It's kinda like the minority who makes it to the top and then wants to take away affirmative action (Clarence Thomas). Then you will evangelize to the world about the "evils" of it all, especially when talking to, and about, your gender mates. Usually, this will be women talking about/cutting down other women's actions in a very non-Christian way.
But, instead of taking a judgmental tone, perhaps it should be instructional. You may be the person who made mistakes and wants to help people not make them. You may be the person who feels they lived a righteous life. Either way you could be helping your friend/church congregant/gender mate with insights about showing how they could do better without belittling them. Oh, wait, did you forget that all of this is a journey? Let me help you with that.
Why such a harsh tone? Because all religions like to emphasize the great and forget the bad happened. But as a Christian, I remember that our religion was founded by the wounded. I remember that there were prostitutes, killers, adulators and polygamists in our past who found their way. By passing instant judgment like you never "sinned" is an affront to the very tenant of this religion. Before you take the twig out of your neighbors eye, take the tree out of yours(and the stick up you ass while at it).
Especially when you were in the club on Friday/Saturday and in church Saturday/Sunday. Oh, you forgot? Let me help you. And you wonder why they call many Christians hypocrites.
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